Can we talk frankly today? Every important Music Ministry Yes requires a thousand Nos. |
Every important Yes requires a thousand Nos, says William Ury. director of the Global Negotiation Project at Harvard University. Warren Buffett, the well-known and extraordinarily successful investor. He confided in me that the secret to creating his fortune lay in his ability to say No. "I don't understand your work on getting to Yes," he half-joked. "My work centers on saying No. I sit there all day and look at investment proposals. I say No, No, No, No, No - until I see one that is exactly what I am looking for. And then I say Yes. All I have to do is say Yes a few times in mylife and I've made my fortune." There it was: the paradoxical secret that every important Yes requires a thousand Nos. You cannot truly say Yes to your priorities unless you can truly say No to other demands on your time, attention, and resources. (William Ury)
Character 7 Issues to Negotiate To a Healthy You
1) Willingness to go when you would rather stay
a) Jonah, Abraham
b) Price for staying is greater than staying.
c) Sow the seed of discomfort.
d) Discomfort is a seed for obedience.
e) Will of God will take you where you belong
2) Willing to speak up when silence will be easier (Stephen)
3)Willing to penalize
a) Confront
b) Weakness permitted thrive and flourishes
c) Joshua stoned akin
d) Silence may indicate consent
4) Release what you rather pursue
a) Prodigal son
5) Willingness to reach when you would rather withdraw
a) Price of pursuit shows what you willing to pay
b) Pay the rice of pursuit
c) Esther had to reach
d) Reach for help-mercy-forgiveness
6) You must be silent when everything in you says speak
a) Swift to listen slow to speak
i) swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath
b) Silence can be golden
c) The kindness word is an unkind word unspoken
d) Don’t be swift to judge
7) Submission (honor) when you would rather lead
a) and the earth opened, and did swallow up Kora
b) Ananias and Sapphira's
c) Wife to husband
Summary
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building a golden bridge design a proposal that is attractive, make it easy for the other side to say yes
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respect
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ability not to react stay calm
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assert your interest say no
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DO NOT FEAR
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Do Good to the opposition
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God is your reward not the object of your negotiating
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Edify those at the negotiating table
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put away anger
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Avoid the Playful Spirit during negotiating
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Avoid Deception at the negotiating table
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Wait on God
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Do not Covenant with your enemies of God
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The Wisdom of God will compensate for your weakness
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Be a listener
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do not act until you have all the facts
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Be Quiet
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Do not accept a peace offering
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Do not share everything at the negotiating table
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Be Congenial
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Define your expectations at the negotiating table
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Listen to the Strongest point of your opposition
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What the expectations of the opposition
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